Are people replaceable?

How do we wake up one day and decide, I think I'll get X out of my life today. One way or another. Do we really consciously do this, or is it a result of keeping way too many disagreements to ourselves?


Was I so disposable, that the minute you realized I was 'stupid' and had 'no intellectual credibility' you chose to wash your hands off me?


A friend offered his perspective. While I don't agree, I can certainly accept his take on the issue. (I hope you don't mind that I'm posting this here)

the way i look at it, the reason people are important is that they do something/ say something which makes us feel better. minus this ability of theirs to make us feel better they wouldn't be too important to us. so the question really boils down to whether they are unique in this special ability to make us happy. i don't think so. ergo, i think people are replaceable.

Does this really happen? The minute we find someone else who offers the same things as our old friends (whose annoying traits we have discovered), who successfully fits the bill, do we promptly replace one with another?

What does it mean, when you're hurting, and the other person isn't?

Is it regret, or just the sad realisation that you are truly pathetic, that overcomes you when you realise you've spent the last three years worrying about certain people's opinions about you, when you should have been speaking your mind, and doing your wish instead. And especially considering that these people don't really give a shit about you apart from the fact that you make for good conversation.

These people were an important part of your existence, with who you had some fun times; the few people you could say anything at all to. It was good to have them in your life- even if for the simple selfish reason that they made you feel good about yourself, accepting you for who you are.

Then I tell myself that someone who could get me out of his life so easily was probably not worth all of this thought.